For them, dating each other regardless of their co-worker status was the right thing to do. Here are a few to consider:. On a tight deadline, you have an ally to collaborate with. You already know him. One of you might get a promotion. Get ready for an awful lot of gossiping about weird co-workers and venting about clients on the weekends. It will suck to have to treat him like a colleague in staff meetings when all you want to do is jump on him and lick his face. The guy eats Pop Tarts for breakfast every day and his socks smell.
You can rail against the unfairness of it all, but think of it this way: If life were fair, you wouldn't be in this dilemma, and the arrow would have pierced the heart of someone nice who works for the company across the street. If you're smart, you will deal with the real world and anticipate plenty of bloodshed before this tale concludes.
One of you may need to leave the job if things don't work out. If things do work out, one of you may have to go, because it's against company policy to date fellow employees. Let's say you become involved with someone in your department, and you receive a promotion. Now you're in a relationship with your subordinate.
This opens up the possibility of blackmail. And what happens when it comes to conducting reviews and disciplining your honey? You get the picture. Still thinking of dating a coworker? Better start popping extra vitamins and heighten your sense of discretion. You'll need a lot of energy and concentrated effort to keep your office romance just between the two of you. And when coworkers eventually find out, you may be the subject of ridicule and suspicion:.
If you want people to focus on your professional abilities, don't give them reasons to fuel the rumor mill. You may think this is a private affair, but is it really? Logic tells you your romantic involvement will impact your coworkers directly. If you sit together in the company cafeteria, will people now feel they should give you privacy? Will they exclude you from certain conversations, because they don't know what you'll relay to your new love?
Consciously or subconsciously, your relationship may influence decisions that go well beyond a lunchroom. One person I spoke to just posted a picture of herself and her boyfriend to her Facebook feed. Slate news director Allison Benedikt and her now-husband got caught kissing on the sidewalk after going out for drinks with colleagues. So keep in mind that a relationship might make you want to leave your current job sooner than you otherwise would.
One woman who started a relationship with a superior though not her direct supervisor at her company says moving to a different firm was good for her relationship although, she says, she left not because of the relationship but because she got an enticing offer. Many couples who work at the same company try to keep their distance in professional life. But some, like advertising creatives Dan Young and Kimb Luisi, choose to collaborate closely. Young and Luisi met in Ad Club at Temple University in Philadelphia, started dating their senior year, and decided to pitch themselves to potential clients and employers as a team after they graduated from college in They ended up getting hired at advertising agency DDB in and have been working together ever since.
Be careful about disagreeing publicly or people may read more into the disagreement than is actually there. I spoke to A.